First of all, what’s the point in pondering this? Yes, there may be some harsh reality like that at 5’2” and 135lbs you are definitely cute, but never going to be a fashion model, which you need to be aware of before dedicating yourself to the career path. Or, if you’re growing lonely and old waiting for a Johnny Depp look-alike for your first kiss, you may want to reevaluate your status.

Otherwise it’s a huge waste of brain wave energy. You are exactly who you think you are. I know, that’s so simple and storybook fable-y, yet so hard to wrap your head around sometimes. The negative version of this is, of course, if you think you’re more heinous than you are. But let’s not get into that whole depressing mess today.

Let’s assume you think you’re pretty hot, but every once in a while, (maybe after he doesn’t call when he said he would, or your cute jeans are a little too hard to button) you start to wonder if you’re delusional and actually are an unattractive loser people only hang with when they don’t have anyone else to do.

Since I know telling you “nonsense!” isn’t going to help (much), here’s what I can come up with to ease out of the funk:

-Buy a new lipstick. Preferably, go to the makeup counter in the department store and get them to try some colors on you. (I find the gay guys in the black polyester shirts to be the best.)

-Get dolled up and go to one of those dark alcoholics bars. Order a whiskey neat and anyone who can still get an erection will be in love. By shear numbers your esteem will get a boost. The whiskey might help too.

-See my earlier post on movie night here. A good movie helps that brain matter start mushing it’s particles together in a more productive manner. Same with a good book.

-Buy a size up. I’m terrible at this. I think I’m a small no matter what the cut, fabric or my current size. I won’t even try it on. Then I’ll cut the tags and wear it without even noticing it’s so tight it’s ruffling around the armpits and my stomach is sticking out the bottom. Until the pictures come out later and I’m like OMG! With looser clothes you look thinner than with tight clothes. It’s true.

-Date down. Haha. I kind of just wanted to type that phrase. But why not give that guy (or girl) a chance you normally wouldn’t? And anyway, maybe you’ll be surprised with what you find.

-For monogamous types, get your partner to take you on a date or, heck, take them. Then you can use your new lipstick and drapey dress.

-Get a blow out.  Jenny McCarthy even got a blow out before giving birth to look good for her first baby pictures. (Of course hours later she realized the futility of this). Gwyneth Paltrow says she doesn’t feel fully dressed until her hair’s blown out.

-Change! This can be our appearance like getting some highlights, or your surroundings or habits. Try a new happy hour place. Rearrange your furniture. Take a new class.