Blablablabla. All out and no in. Lectures are not a form of leisure conversation or bonding-promoting experience. However well intentioned an agenda, you may need to lay off it before things, and you, start getting ugly. Being a non-stop issue evangelist is worse than being a ditz when it comes to detracting from your appearance. At least a ditz isn’t offensive or annoying, or plain confrontational.

What does one want to get out of it anyway? A convert? Is there some rush of adrenaline when someone is finally convinced that, yes, yes, yes, that’s it! What if that person agrees the whole time for the sake of nicety? Is that conversation worse or better than one with someone who’s reluctant to believe? Is it that there is some do-gooder reward? A pat on the back and a high-five for getting someone to finally see the error of their ways and get them on the right track?

Ya see, the thing is that vehement, ardent lectures drive wedges between people.  Who is right or wrong is not even relevant to the outcome if the outcome is to have a friend, lover, or even someone just to like you. If you tend to feel that a particular issue must be understood, practiced, and continued to be proselytized by the recipient of your lectures, than you must not care about your relationship with said person all that much.

Evaluate this concept and I promise that you’ll be prettier.