First, nip that ego in the butt. Negative energy about yourself takes more ego than positive energy. Much like how it takes more muscles to frown than to smile. Think you’re so special for having raccoon eyes? Not so much! There are women who don’t even have eyes who have a good man on their arm. 

Then you can focus on the great fact that you’ve got what you got and you can either waste your life fretting about it or shut up, smile, and work with it sista. And when the inevitable happens and that negative energy starts to creep back, have a martini and a laugh with some friends and sleep it off. Or, as Arina says on her self-help blog, you can just try to……. stop it. “Your mind will be so shocked that for a whole 2 seconds it will actually stop thinking at all. This is your opportunity to counter your negative thoughts.”

**What is negative energy? This is not hippy dippy dope smoker talk for real, tangible issues. This is merely a choice of words indicating unnecessary pessimism. This is not guilt/sadness when you accidentally slammed the sliding door busting the gut of Fluffy your cat. You should feel bad about that because it was a shitty thing to happen. Negative energy is more like that crappy feeling you have after a dinner with dad in which all your failings and short comings were touched upon, however indirectly. Negative energy can be taken and created. When dad dished out his commentary on your lifestyle choices, he did so because he’s feeling some failings at your not having done everything exactly to his perspective of perfect. When someone takes someone else’s parking spot they are giving negative energy because they are a douche bag. Try not to let it get to you or do it yourself. Self-induced negative energy is assuming people don’t like you just because they exist and so do you. In this case maybe you should smoke dope because you need to relax a little.